Postnatal: Mummy Tummy

Post-baby bodies are amazing. They have done something truly spectacular! Making, carrying and then giving birth to a baby is a privilege. And one that not all of us are able to experience.

When we are pregnant, our bodies can feed, nurture and take care of our babies every need without so much as a second thought from us. Amazing.

So it’s sad to me that as soon as our babies have been born, our bodies are no longer considered amazing. We forget the wonderful things that we have spent the past 9 months doing and we focus on how we look! We read magazines and newspapers that show celebrities in bikinis when their baby is a week old. That’s not real life but it’s what we compare ourselves to.

My body is….softer than it used to be! I have a wrinkly “Mummy Tummy” where I used to have a toned waist. But that wrinkly “Mummy Tummy” gives Austin no end of enjoyment when he blows raspberries on it! Daddy’s muscular physique (Daddy will smile to himself when he reads that!) doesn’t provide as wobbly a surface for raspberry blowing!

Every time I look in the mirror at my softer, rounder body, I make a point to be thankful for the two little people it made such a fabulous job at creating. Then the wobbly bits don’t seem half as bad at all.

This doesn’t mean I don’t want to change how I look, I do. I want to lose weight, I want my body to look like it did before I had children. I don’t know if it ever will. Right now, that seems a million miles away! I know it will take time for me to regain my figure – I used to be a gym bunny for a start – but I’m heading in the right direction.

I have signed up with The Fitmama Studio‘s Postnatal course which is an exercise, nutrition and repair course. At the beginning of the course; they assess your Pelvic Floor function and see if you have a Diastasis (gap between your tummy muscles – thankfully mine was very small at 1cm). Then you go on to learn something called the Hypopressive Technique which really, is just plain weird! Hypopressive is all about decreasing pressure within your body and it’s a way of exercising which targets your core, without adding detrimental pressure to your abdominal wall and pelvic floor. I admit, at first, I wasn’t really sure what was going on or even if I was doing it right but now I know what I’m doing and have started practising at home, I can see a difference in my tummy, it’s slowly going back to normal. Of course, being pear-shaped, my hips and thighs are still more than adequately sized! But I’ll get there!

Post-pregnancy brings another body woe. Clothes. What the hell are we supposed to wear? Those of us not lucky enough to ping back into pre-pregnancy shape are left wearing maternity clothes that are too big because our pre-pregnancy clothes are too small. Has anyone else been clothes shopping with a new baby in tow, only to buy something that you don’t really like, in a size bigger than you’d hoped, just because you need something to put on each day? I don’t want to spend money on clothes that I don’t intend to be wearing for very long. I have no answer to post-natal clothing, other than to follow my lead and wear clothes that don’t fit!! It’s all a bit rubbish really isn’t it?!

So in summary, I would tell any other new Mum out there not to get caught up with how you look! Your bodies are awesome, no matter what you think they look like. Try to embrace the way you look in your “Fourth Trimester”! If you don’t have time to wash your hair, stock up on dry shampoo. If you have dark circles under your eyes (I did even before kids!) invest in some YSL Touche Eclat! Buy a new bubble bath, face cream, shoes or some clothes that actually fit (good luck with that!)! Eat good food and go for nice walks (once you feel up to it). Do whatever you like to make you feel like the wonderful woman that you are.

Will I listen to my own advice? Yes, some of it! I apply layers of Touche Eclat and nothing comes between me and a new pair of shoes! But like most of you reading this, it won’t make me like the way I look. I won’t feel guilty about that. I will however, keep remembering what a good job my body did at making my babies. And for that, I will be eternally thankful.

x

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11 thoughts on “Postnatal: Mummy Tummy

  1. Emma Smith says:

    It’s so hard to know what to wear isn’t it! I’m in next size up jeans I bought from New Look and some of my old clothes don’t quite seem “me” anymore! You sort of lose your identity a bit don’t you? xx

    • everythingisrosy says:

      You really do! It’s so hard to know what to wear. After my last pregnancy I bought a size up in jeans, this time even they don’t fit me! 😁 so I’m sticking to maternity jeans and using that itself as inspiration to get in shape! We’ll get there, our baby girls are both still young, we should be a little easier on ourselves.xx

  2. Imogene says:

    I couldn’t have read this article at a better time. It’s such a lovely, feel good post! I’ve been completely obsessed with my tummy since my LO has arrived and actually reading this has made me think a little different. 🙂 X

    • everythingisrosy says:

      Oh I’m so glad! Thank you for taking the time to let me know. Making a person is hard work for our bodies! Our tummies are a just little reminder of how hard they worked for us.xx

  3. Mumaleary says:

    Waaaaa haaaaa!! I totally know what you mean. My stomach is a state! I hate the fact that I now need to tuck it in. Grim. But, I am exercising and I adore my babies so things could be worse hey. You’ve got to love control pants though!!

  4. emily says:

    love this.. totally tummy and body obsessed at the moment and im even writing a post on my blog about it this week..
    i find it very hard reconciling the new image of me to the one ive known of myself for 30 years 🙂

  5. mummyofboygirltwins says:

    Well said lovely!! I have a very saggy, wrinkly, Mummy tummy but then I had twins and it stretched so far!! I am enjoying running now and getting fitter and toning up but I realise it’ll never look the same again. Thats fine, just got to adjust your wardrobe to suit! Great post x

  6. Honest Mum says:

    Love this positive attitude, I would love my tummy 2 years on to be in better shape but thank goodness for spanx. So glad you are being kind to yourself. Thanks for linking up to #brilliantblogposts x

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