Postnatal Series: Mum

When I was pregnant the second time round, I couldn’t understand how I would love a second child as much as my first. Before having children, you have no idea how much love you will have for them. Then, if you are lucky enough to become a mother, instantly you change. You would put your own life on the line without a second thought, if it meant they would be safe. How can you possible have any more love to give?!

It happens! You have as much love for your second child as your first. It just happens. Like some kind of amazing Mother Nature magical shiz.

Elodie

When I tell people I have a newborn and a 1 1/2 year old, so many say “wow, you’re brave!” Or “you must have your work cut out!” My favourite is “oh no poor you having two in nappies!” Yes poor me having two healthy, beautiful children in nappies! Nobody’s favourite past-time is changing two sets of nappies but if that’s the worst thing in my life, I think I will cope just fine!

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To any other mums reading this who come under the “two under two” bracket, a few little nuggets of advise for you:

      • You need to be extra extra organised.
      • You must to be able to multitask like never before.
      • Those eyes you have in the back of your head? You need a couple more on each side, around your ears will do.
      • You will definitely need to stop your toddler kicking your newborn. Over and over again.
      • And sometimes, you have to let one cry, while you tend to the other. *heart breaks* If the toddler has his wet hand inches from a live socket, or he has climbed into the tumble drier and is currently closing the door (neither of these have actually happened! Yet.) whilst the baby is screaming because she’s accidentally pulled her own dummy out (this has happened. Many many times.)…Toddler 1: Baby o.

So far, 11 weeks in to a lifetime of having two children, it’s been fiiiiiiine. Honest.

I found it hard at first, when I was in hospital after having Elodie, I was showered, changed and desperate to go home an hour after she had been born. I was however, kept in for the rest of that day so my time was spent sat staring at my beautiful tiny newborn and then having a pang of guilt that I wasn’t sat staring at my beautiful toddler (hard to do unless said toddler is sleeping, but still!).

The first day at home, when Austin met his little sis was quite hard too. Mainly because I was so conscious of making sure he knew he was still as loved and adored as ever. There were tears from him and tears from me. Over his milk of all things! Not spilt though – there’s no point crying over that. But the tears didn’t last long. Then, the first few weeks passed in a blur of visitors, as is usually the case, and before we had realised it, we had settled into being a family of 4 and it wasn’t as difficult anymore.  I’ll write more about Austin’s relationship with Elodie next week…

Physically, this postnatal recovery has been easier. Less pain for a start. And actually, I have had to recover more quickly because I haven’t wanted Austin to notice a difference in his Mummy, I’ve wanted to get back to my old self (pre big pregnancy belly!) rolling around on the floor and messing around with him.  My baby weight and mummy tummy are another story. And in fact, I will write about these soon too. For now, let’s just say I am still wearing my maternity jeans and I can’t see that changing anytime soon! Damn my pear shape and thighs!

Emotionally, this time has also been much easier. And not because Elodie is an easier baby – she’s not (she was at first – lulling me into a false sense of calm baby security!). While Austin had colic and suffered with aches and pains from his forceps birth, Elodie has reflux! And let me tell you, reflux sucks. No, this time it’s easier because I’ve been here before! This time, I know that the crying, the fussy feeding and the sleepless nights although at the time, they feel like they last for all of eternity, they won’t be forever. I know that whenever I have a hard day, tomorrow is a fresh start. Tomorrow will be better. And most importantly, I know that I am a good mum. Even on those hard days when we have excessive crying; no sleep; wind that won’t come up; milk that won’t stay down and now even toddler tantrums thrown into the mix, I am a good mum, trying my best, loving my children more than anything else. Sometimes us Mums forget this. Our babies don’t forget it, not until around the time they hit puberty at least! To our babies, we are their mums, their world, their everything. This time round, I know this and I will my best try not to forget it!

Next week on the Postnatal series…Big Brother, Little Sister…

Postnatal Series: Baby

Now that Elodie is 10 weeks old, I thought I would ease myself back into blogging by writing a Postnatal series, covering different aspects of our lives since she was born. So I’ll kick off with a little post about the leading lady herself…

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Elodie is truly the prettiest baby girl I’ve ever known. Fact.

Strangers sometimes think her name is Melody..! I’ve even had someone say to me “you mean Melody?” when I introduced her! #jerk

We chose her name as something a little different and we think it compliments Austin’s name perfectly. So many people have said lovely things about their names.

She has made me re-evaluate the colour pink! I used to hate it, now I’ve even started wearing it myself!

She is a blue eyed girl in a brown eyed family. Her eyes are like beautiful pools of sparkly blue water. Different to Austin’s dark chocolate brown eyes. So different but both so gorgeous. I have a feeling Elodie’s will stay blue now too, I hope so.

She sleeps ALOT. Much much more than her big bro ever did. Only the past couple of weeks has she started being awake longer than just to feed.

Since she was tiny, she’s fed 3 hourly during the day. When she was brand new, this was night time too but thankfully it only lasted a couple of weeks before she started going longer during the night. Now, if I manage to get her to feed at 10ish (if she’s not too tired to drink!) she’ll wake up any time from 4am. As much of a pain as feeding 3 hourly during the day is, I can handle it when I know she will (probably) sleep longer at night. I hope this lasts!

She loves her big brother so much that he has even managed to make her giggle! Just the once so far and I’m desperate for her to repeat it!

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Next week in the Postnatal Series…all about Mum!

The TMI Tag

TMI

About 67 years ago, the very lovely Nicola from Nicola and Baby J (she’s about 36 weeks pregnant and looks AMAZING. Not jealous at all..!), tagged me in her TMI post. I’ve been so busy with the newest addition to the family that I’m only just getting around to doing it..! So here goes…

1. What are you wearing?
My gym kit! Wednesday’s (today!) is Fitmama Postnatal day so I’ve been practising Hypopressives and bum clenches – I’ll blog about this sometime soon. Hopefully before the next 67 years!

2. Ever been in love?
Yes, I really rather love my husband!

3. Ever had a terrible breakup?

Nope. I’ve just left a trail of destruction! HA!

4. How tall are you?

5ft 4in

5. How much do you weigh?

Too much. I’m 10 weeks postnatal and still have a hefty amount to lose. We won’t talk about that.

6. Any tattoos?

No, none

7. Any piercings?

My ears. I had my nose pierced when I was younger but it didn’t last long.

8. OTP?

Err what?? I don’t know what this is so I’m going to say it means…Octopus, Tiddlywinks or Pastrami? My answer is Octopus. Of course.

9. Favourite show?

Gogglebox is my current fave. I love it, I just can’t decide which family is the best! 

10. Favourite bands?

No idea! I’ll hear a song that I like on the radio and have no clue who it’s by! I’m all about golden oldies too though.

11. Something you miss?

I miss Austin! He’s spending tonight on a mini-break with my Mum in the New Forest.

12. Favourite song?

All time favourite is Mr Blue Sky by ELO! #iamcool

13. How old are you?

33

14. Zodiac sign?

Libra

15. Quality you look for in a partner?

Gorgeousness and muscles

16. Favourite Quote?

Oooh I was watching Lorraine this morning interviewing Elle Machpherson (who, incidentally, is ridiculously gorgeous) and she said “Love what you do and do what you love”  

17. Favourite actor?

Bradley Cooper – SWOON! (Does “swoon” remind anyone else of reading Just Seventeen when you were younger??)

18. Favourite colour?
Before having Elodie, I hated pink. Now I can’t get enough of it!

19. Loud music or soft?
Depends how I’m feeling and what I’m doing. 

20. Where do you go when you’re sad?
To bed!

21. How long does it take you to shower?
If I’m childless, I could spend hours in a hot shower. If there are children in the house, I either keep thinking I can hear the baby crying or, I have the toddler banging on the shower door so, I’m in and out as quick as poss!

22. How long does it take you to get ready in the morning?
Depends whether Austin is helping me re-arrange my make-up box. I MUST wear make-up if I am to leave the house. Otherwise I would be mistaken for my brother and nobody wants to deal with that.

23. Ever been in a physical fight?
Yes, with my brother when we were younger. I would always win. ALWAYS. Don’t believe anything different he tells you. Although he did break my nose with a tennis racket. That doesn’t look right, how the hell do you spell racket?!

24. Turn on?
Gorgeousness and muscles!

25. Turn off?
Arrogance; rudeness; lies; bad breath and dirty nails!

26. The reason I started blogging?
To write about my pregnancy, motherhood and other general goings on in my life.

27. Fears?
CLOWNS. Why the hell do they even exist? No point. They’re like the wasps of the children’s entertainment world.

28. Last thing that made you cry?
I don’t remember, it happens so often at the moment. Probably watching something rubbish on TV that nobody else in their right mind would shed a tear over! #hormones

29. Last time you said you loved someone?
I just told Elodie while she was crying.

30. Meaning behind your blog name?
Rosy is my nickname…

31. Last book you read?
I read The Gruffalo to Austin last night. The second page has been ripped out, thankfully I’ve seen the film 96 million times and I can recite the story word for word, so it wasn’t a problem.

32. The book you’re currently reading?
I’m not. However, I did buy the latest Glamour magazine earlier today! Although, it might take me 3 months to get to read it. Does that count?

33. Last show you watched?
The Ejector Seat! Have you seen it? It’s presented by Andi Peters and is a bit naff. But I like it.

34. Last person you talked to?
Husband.

35. The relationship between you and the person you last texted?
My Mum! Telling me that she’d taken Austin to the beach today with his Great Uncle.

36. Favourite food?
Anything curry-like

37. Place you want to visit?
I quite fancy Australia and New Zealand

38. Last place you were?
Asda buying nappies! #rockandroll

39. Do you have a crush?
Yes, my husband!

40. Last time you kissed someone?
I kissed Elodie on one of her chubby cheeks about 5 minutes ago

41. Last time you were insulted?
Ooooh good question! I actually don’t know. I have a shortlist of people who tend to insult me and I haven’t seen any of them for a while!

42. Favourite flavour of sweet?
Berry flavours – I’ll always pick a red or black sweet over a green or yellow.

43. What instruments do you play?
I can play about 4 songs on the piano (only one of them with both hands), that’s it!

44. Favourite piece of jewellery?
My engagement ring

45. Last sport you played?
Wrestling! With Austin last night. He’s better at it than me.

46. Last song you sang?
I sang “I only wanna be with you” to Elodie earlier to calm her down when she was having a bit of a scream. I think she liked it.

47. Favourite chat up line?
Chat up lines are dumb!

48. Have you ever used it?
No…

49. Last time you hung out with anyone?
Other than Husband, Elodie and I met one of my friends for a catch up after my fitness class today. Elodie even wore flamingo leggings for the occasion.

50. Who should answer these questions next?
I’m going to tag…

Emma @ Emma and Alfie’s World

Polly @ Polly’s Little World

Jess @ Mrs Helicopter

and Katie @ KTBTW

REVIEW: Natures Purest Bathtime Set

Lucky little Elodie was recently sent a bathtime set from the lovely baby company Natures Purest. Like her mum, she LOVES a bit of pampering so she jumped at the chance to test it out!

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Natures Purest was founded in 2006 with just one range of 5 products. Since then, they’ve grown massively and can now be found on many a UK high street.

What Natures Purest say about themselves…

Promise…We make every one of our baby products to the highest possible safety and quality standards. 

Dream…Caring for little ones as sensitively and lovingly as any good parent, our simple and natural products give your baby the healthiest possible start in life. 

Passion…Just as you love your newborn child, we passionately believe in creating sensitive, natural products that will not irritate your precious baby in any way.  

We received a Sleepy Safari bathtime set which consists of a hooded towel and wash mitt made from 100% organic cotton and comes in a cute gift box.

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The bathtime set itself is super soft, it was soft when it arrived but even more so once I’d washed it before using it on Elodie. And actually it’s been washed a few times now and is still as soft as ever.

Austin, Elodie’s  older brother, took a shine to the wash mitt – like the towel, it has a lion’s face on it and, a lion’s ROOOOOAAAAAAAARRRR is one of the animal noises that he likes to make. Thus, a lion wash mitt makes bath time a lot more fun! And a lot more noisy!!

Elodie, however, tested the towel out herself (Austin has a towel poncho that makes him look like a pirate, so he’s not interested in anything else) and it’s really lovely. It’s slightly larger than other hooded towels we have, which is good as she’s quite the chubster – pearshaped like her mum, poor thing!

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So the verdict? I would happily buy this set as a gift for a newborn. It’s sooooooo soft, really good quality and it’s organic! Who wouldn’t choose organic for their baby?

For those of you who are interested in the serious stuff:

The products are tested to be sure that the most dangerous chemicals are not present, so we can rest easy knowing that no chemicals will be rubbed onto delicate newborn skin.

The cotton is not only good for baby but good for the environment. It’s grown with less chemicals, less fertilisers and less damage to the planet.

Also, it should be noted that the Natures Purest factory in Sri Lanka has been awarded a Garments Without Guilt certificate to show that their products are manufactured using well paid labour in comfortable factory conditions. Everyone’s a winner!

To see more of Natures Purest products, click here. I LOVE the So Sweet So Cute collection!